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The Truth About AshleyMadison.com

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I didn’t even know what AshleyMadison.com was until a couple of days ago when I had noticed that 13 people had shared this blog post about it on Facebook. I knew if that many people were interested in it…I guess it must have been ‘something.’ So, I began looking into this website and was honestly appalled by what I was reading and the listings of people in my area on this site!

The website’s famous logo is, “Life is Short, Have an Affair.” Hmm..let that sink in. Over the past couple of days, I have heard news stories, people sharing on Facebook, on Twitter about this ridiculous website. “Females frantically checking this site and adding their husband’s e-mail to see if they are affiliated with this site.” “Spouses buying these programs to see what sites their spouse is on.” Are people really that concerned with their marriage that they have to worry if their spouse is visiting a site like AshleyMadison.com?

The truth about life–about marriage is yes, marriage is hard. Yes, at times, we can feel unappreciated or distant from our spouses. Life gets in the way of marriage. Sometimes, we think that our spouse doesn’t love us anymore because they aren’t the person we married. They don’t show their love. Or maybe, they have even it has came out of their mouths that they don’t love us–or they hate us, or hate our marriage. When our marriage hits a breaking point, some people do give up and get weak. Some people do start looking for attention from the opposite sex because they aren’t getting it from their spouse. Some people do have affairs. The world, the website, is saying that it’s okay to have an affair. It’s all a big secret that won’t get back to your spouse.

The truth of the matter here is that people don’t need a website to find someone to have an affair. The temptation is at work, at the gym, in public, or even in the church. This website might be ”talked about” and flaunted like it’s some solution to fix your life. But, do you really think an affair will fix things in your life? Do you really think that an affair will make things easier? Do you really think you should be finding someone else when you are still committed to a person you vowed for better or worse with?

If you find yourself worried that you spouse is having an affair, maybe you should check your marriage! How can you fix it? Have you prayed about it? Have you talked with someone or did you seek counsel? And if you are that person that is miserable in your marriage and think that “YES!” “And affair is just what I need!” Maybe you need to check yourself.If you think you can seek something better, maybe you should dedicate the effort you put into having an affair, keeping it a secret, deleting texts, deleting phone logs, deleting e-mails…..man! That’s tiring and some work. Put that work into you marriage. Instead of trying to impress the woman who is also married and has a family, buy your wife some flowers and take her to dinner. Instead of sending a dirty picture to the man who is already wearing a wedding ring, try respecting yourself and sending your husband a text message telling him how much you appreciate him and love him and send him a picture of your wedding day!

That’s just my two cents ya’ll…..take it as a grain of salt if you need to, but believe me, it’s true!

Dear God, I pray for marriages! There are temptations on Facebook, on Youtube, on the TV, at our work…Lord help us to see these temptations! Help us to recognize these as a trap from Hell! Lord, restore our marriages! Help us to follow what the Bible says about marriage and apply it to our own marriages. Help us to be cautious of our surroundings. Lord, give us a refreshing mind and a renewing love for our spouses. Help us to remember who we married and why we married them. Help us to set good examples of what a marriage is to our family and children. The world is awful and says that it’s okay to have affairs. Lord, help us not to believe those lies, but to seek Your Truth! In JESUS NAME

Until next time…be encouraged!

Why Everyone Should Have an Accountability Person!

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If you would have asked me a year ago if I had someone that ‘holds me accountable,’ I would have thought that I didn’t need an accountability person, that was something for Celebrating Recovery programs! I have had a big revelation, and I think that everyone should have someone that can hold them accountable for their actions, the way they live, and just everyday things.

We all have girlfriends, guys we hang out with and even our spouses, but are they doing what they need to be doing to hold us accountable? Okay, picture this. You are having issues with your spouse, you are in the wrong, you tell your girlfriend’s and they have your back (even though you are in the wrong as well!) See, there is a difference between a friend and someone that can hold you accountable. Someone that holds you accountable would be the one who does tell you that you are wrong as well, or give you a better scenario of how you could have done better.

I think that is sometimes why marriages fail or that they have so much issues is because we don’t have that person to tell us that we are making mistakes in our relationships, in our parenting, in our daily lives. They are people that have our back, that will have our side, that will bad mouth our spouses and make things worse! That’s not somebody that will hold you accountable. And true friend’s might be honest. They might be people that hold you accountable, and that’s great. I just see a lot of people that have issues in their lives, and they don’t have the support that they need. They have people telling them what they want to hear.

Do you know why people who are married doesn’t tell their parents or family their marriage problems? Because parents and family usually turn against the spouse that they are not kin to. Have you ever caught yourself talking about your spouse to your friend’s or your family? Have your friends agreed along with you and started talking poorly about your spouse? It is kind of like the saying, “adding fuel to the fire.”

My point, find someone that will be honest with you. Find someone who will not sugar coat your life and tell you the things that you want to hear. Yes, you will always have that friend who if you have issues with your husband, so will they….I am not saying kick those friend’s to the curb…but, be careful what you share with that friend.

I am thinking about a friend of mine. She’s actually been married way longer than I have and every single time I see her, she has something negative to say about her husband. She is never going to divorce him, I know that. But, her and her husband do not see eye to eye on a lot of things. Instead of chiming in with her saying, “Oh yeah, he’s a dirtbag, piece of crap….!” No, I try to tell her something positive. I tell her to try to be more patient. I tell her to not stop praying for her husband. She appreciates me doing that. For one reason why I try to not sugar coat or hold people accountable, especially in their marriage is because they appreciate it later. Everyone needs that.

Lord, I know we have issues in our lives. Life is hard. But, please help us to be wise about who we share things with. Help us to have someone that will hold us accountable. Help us to hold our spouse’s accountable. Just be with us and guide us. In Jesus’ name!

Until next time…be encouraged!

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