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Why Everyone Should Have an Accountability Person!

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If you would have asked me a year ago if I had someone that ‘holds me accountable,’ I would have thought that I didn’t need an accountability person, that was something for Celebrating Recovery programs! I have had a big revelation, and I think that everyone should have someone that can hold them accountable for their actions, the way they live, and just everyday things.

We all have girlfriends, guys we hang out with and even our spouses, but are they doing what they need to be doing to hold us accountable? Okay, picture this. You are having issues with your spouse, you are in the wrong, you tell your girlfriend’s and they have your back (even though you are in the wrong as well!) See, there is a difference between a friend and someone that can hold you accountable. Someone that holds you accountable would be the one who does tell you that you are wrong as well, or give you a better scenario of how you could have done better.

I think that is sometimes why marriages fail or that they have so much issues is because we don’t have that person to tell us that we are making mistakes in our relationships, in our parenting, in our daily lives. They are people that have our back, that will have our side, that will bad mouth our spouses and make things worse! That’s not somebody that will hold you accountable. And true friend’s might be honest. They might be people that hold you accountable, and that’s great. I just see a lot of people that have issues in their lives, and they don’t have the support that they need. They have people telling them what they want to hear.

Do you know why people who are married doesn’t tell their parents or family their marriage problems? Because parents and family usually turn against the spouse that they are not kin to. Have you ever caught yourself talking about your spouse to your friend’s or your family? Have your friends agreed along with you and started talking poorly about your spouse? It is kind of like the saying, “adding fuel to the fire.”

My point, find someone that will be honest with you. Find someone who will not sugar coat your life and tell you the things that you want to hear. Yes, you will always have that friend who if you have issues with your husband, so will they….I am not saying kick those friend’s to the curb…but, be careful what you share with that friend.

I am thinking about a friend of mine. She’s actually been married way longer than I have and every single time I see her, she has something negative to say about her husband. She is never going to divorce him, I know that. But, her and her husband do not see eye to eye on a lot of things. Instead of chiming in with her saying, “Oh yeah, he’s a dirtbag, piece of crap….!” No, I try to tell her something positive. I tell her to try to be more patient. I tell her to not stop praying for her husband. She appreciates me doing that. For one reason why I try to not sugar coat or hold people accountable, especially in their marriage is because they appreciate it later. Everyone needs that.

Lord, I know we have issues in our lives. Life is hard. But, please help us to be wise about who we share things with. Help us to have someone that will hold us accountable. Help us to hold our spouse’s accountable. Just be with us and guide us. In Jesus’ name!

Until next time…be encouraged!

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