My husband and I have been married close to a decade. We have the “Yours, Mine and Ours” thing going on, and let’s just be honest, with all of our children, I just have days (more than I would like to have) where I feel like my whole world of parenting is coming crashing down on me. I am good to have a smooth morning, but someone is bound to have a meltdown and this was the morning that all of them decided to have a meltdown. One of my children didn’t want to wear the shirt I picked out for them, they wanted something completely different. The didn’t want the breakfast options that we had. We were running late. We were running late and one of them was missing their homework assignment. Geeze…..my head felt like it was going to explode!
Why do we get in our minds that we have to “have it all together?” I am going through these disasters, and thinking “Oh my gosh, look at that mom dropping off her kid, she has it ALL together.” While I am over here wiping the peanut butter off my yoga pants and brushing my hair back so I will look presentable enough and like I am not a Zombie-fied mom when I drop my kids off. I think we get it in our minds how our lives SHOULD be and we forget that God has made us all different. That’s right. We don’t have to have it all together ALL the time. Even the mother is her neatly ironed shirt, perfect hair and makeup and kids that are so eager to go to school has bad days. Plus, we never know what people are going through on the inside.
We all choose how we take our days. I’ve learned to wake up each morning and think, “Yes, today my children might act all crazy..” “Yes, I might wake up in an awful mood..” But you know what, I can ROCK this bad day. We, or I, had it in my mind that my children were no entitled to have bad days. We need to know God will never give us more than we can handle. He has given us the gift of parenting because we are capable of doing it. So let’s choose to take our capability to parent and rock it! Seriously!
Becoming a parent at such a young age, I constantly compared myself to other mother’s. “They are older and married.” “They have a good job, a good house, a dependable more nicer vehicle.” I still catch myself comparing myself to other parents. If you are a teenage parent, the things that got me through is motivation from my haters. When I heard whispers saying, “I don’t know how she is going to take care of that kid and finish school.” Or, “I don’t know how she is going to do this or that with a kid on the way.” Those people just motivated me to PROVE THEM WRONG!
I read something the other day that said, “Here all these parents are making rainbow spaghetti and I’m all like, “Yay my kids are still alive.” Haha! So true. Don’t be too hard on yourself. If you are doing the BEST you can, then give yourself a pat on the back. Sometimes, I realize that I’m not doing the best I can. I lose patience. I get frustrated. I cry. I get mad. Choose to teach your children how to handle hard situations like “I can’t find my homework…” or “I don’t want to wear this shirt because it’s itchy…”
Smile today. Our kids might have been grumpy this morning, but this afternoon, let them know how much you love them. Hug and kiss them…or give a high-five to the “too cool teenager who no longer wants Mama kisses!”
Have a wonderful weekend!
Until next time….be encouraged!!!